{"id":756,"date":"2026-09-04T10:00:50","date_gmt":"2026-09-04T10:00:50","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/harmonycoachingltd.com\/?p=756"},"modified":"2026-08-17T20:01:53","modified_gmt":"2026-08-17T20:01:53","slug":"when-did-you-stop-asking-what-you-wanted","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/harmonycoachingltd.com\/fr\/when-did-you-stop-asking-what-you-wanted\/","title":{"rendered":"When Did You Stop Asking What You Wanted?"},"content":{"rendered":"

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When was the last time you properly thought about what you wanted?<\/span><\/p>\n

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Not what needs done.<\/span><\/p>\n

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Not what would make life easier for everyone else.<\/span><\/p>\n

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Not what you can realistically squeeze in between work, family, appointments and everything else you\u2019re responsible for.<\/span><\/p>\n

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Just\u2026 what do you want?<\/span><\/p>\n

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It sounds like an easy question.<\/span><\/p>\n

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It really isn\u2019t.<\/span><\/p>\n

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I\u2019ve asked women this and watched them go completely blank.<\/span><\/p>\n

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They can tell me what they don\u2019t want.<\/span><\/p>\n

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They don\u2019t want to be this tired all the time. They don\u2019t want to dread Mondays. They don\u2019t want to spend every weekend catching up on everything they didn\u2019t manage during the week.<\/span><\/p>\n

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They know they want <\/span>something<\/span> to change.<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

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But ask what they\u2019d like instead?<\/span><\/p>\n

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Silence.<\/span><\/p>\n

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And I don\u2019t think that\u2019s because we suddenly reach a certain age and stop having dreams.<\/span><\/p>\n

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I think sometimes life just gets very, very practical.<\/span><\/p>\n

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There are bills to pay. People to look after. Jobs to do. Houses to run. Relationships to maintain. Problems that appear from nowhere and need dealt with.<\/span><\/p>\n

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You become good at getting on with it.<\/span><\/p>\n

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Really good, actually.<\/span><\/p>\n

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And without noticing, the questions you ask yourself start changing.<\/span><\/p>\n

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\u201cWhat would I love to do?\u201d becomes \u201cWhen would I possibly have time for that?\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n

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\u201cI\u2019d love to try that\u201d becomes \u201cThat\u2019s probably not realistic.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n

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\u201cI wonder if I could\u2026\u201d becomes \u201cDon\u2019t be ridiculous.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n

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We can talk ourselves out of something before we\u2019ve even finished thinking about it.<\/span><\/p>\n

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And after years of doing that, possibility gets smaller.<\/span><\/p>\n

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You start making decisions based almost entirely on what\u2019s sensible, necessary or expected.<\/span><\/p>\n

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Then one day you realise life is functioning perfectly well on paper, but you don\u2019t feel particularly excited about any of it.<\/span><\/p>\n

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That can be a strange place to find yourself.<\/span><\/p>\n

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Because nothing is necessarily terrible.<\/span><\/p>\n

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There might not be a dramatic problem to solve.<\/span><\/p>\n

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You just have this nagging feeling that surely there should be a bit more than this.<\/span><\/p>\n

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More fun.<\/span><\/p>\n

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More freedom.<\/span><\/p>\n

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More confidence.<\/span><\/p>\n

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More people.<\/span><\/p>\n

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More experiences.<\/span><\/p>\n

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More time for yourself.<\/span><\/p>\n

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Maybe even just more moments where you think, <\/span>I really enjoyed that.<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

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And this is where I think we make it harder than it needs to be.<\/span><\/p>\n

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We immediately assume that wanting something different means making some enormous life-changing decision.<\/span><\/p>\n

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Quit the job.<\/span><\/p>\n

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End the relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n

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Move house.<\/span><\/p>\n

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Start a business.<\/span><\/p>\n

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Reinvent yourself.<\/span><\/p>\n

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No wonder we back away from it.<\/span><\/p>\n

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But possibility doesn\u2019t have to start with a massive change.<\/span><\/p>\n

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It can start with curiosity.<\/span><\/p>\n

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What have you stopped doing that you used to love?<\/span><\/p>\n

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What do you see other people doing and secretly think, <\/span>I\u2019d love to do that<\/span>?<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

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What would you try if you knew you didn\u2019t have to be good at it?<\/span><\/p>\n

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Who would you spend more time with?<\/span><\/p>\n

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What would you do with a completely free Saturday?<\/span><\/p>\n

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What would you like there to be more of in your life a year from now?<\/span><\/p>\n

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And here\u2019s the important bit.<\/span><\/p>\n

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Don\u2019t answer and immediately tell yourself why it can\u2019t happen.<\/span><\/p>\n

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We\u2019re incredibly good at that.<\/span><\/p>\n

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\u201cI\u2019d love to travel more, but\u2026\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n

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\u201cI\u2019d love to change jobs, but\u2026\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n

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\u201cI\u2019d love to meet new people, but\u2026\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n

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\u201cI\u2019d love to have something that was just mine, but\u2026\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n

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There will be time for the <\/span>but<\/span>.<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

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There will be practicalities. Money matters. Responsibilities matter. Real life matters.<\/span><\/p>\n

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But you don\u2019t need to solve any of that while you\u2019re still figuring out what you actually want.<\/span><\/p>\n

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For once, let the idea exist before you interrogate it.<\/span><\/p>\n

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You might discover you don\u2019t want a completely different life at all.<\/span><\/p>\n

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Maybe you quite like most of the life you\u2019ve built.<\/span><\/p>\n

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You\u2019d just like a little more of you in it.<\/span><\/p>\n

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And that\u2019s a very different place to start.<\/span><\/p>\n

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